Friends of Jefferson, spanking for justice!
So Delilah has been bugging me to blog. Not too much. Before anybody get’s TOO confused, this is NOT your usual lovable and sexy coed blogger. This is her very lucky owner, who until we have finally decided on a better “screen name”, I’ll keep going by user name.. “sir”.
Anyways, my real introductory post will have to wait. Instead I wanted to immediately draw attention to our readers to the legal plight of a fellow blogger and community member.
Jefferson, the author of the often interesting One Life, Take Two, blog is currently under threat of losing the custody of his kids, because of his blog.
Of course for stupid legal reasons, he has had to REMOVE the blog from the internet. But we really hope it will return as soon as the drama in his life is over.
I don’t know Jefferson personally, but he and I share a LOT of similarities: married for 15 years, divorced single father, and a kinkster. He’s ALSO one of the only MALE sex bloggers that I read. And know it’s gone missing. At least one of the few male sex bloggers that’s WORTH reading, so I’m really hoping for it’s eventual return.
Anyways, The Sexual Freedom Legal Defense and Education Fund has setup a legal defense fund to help Jefferson fight for his legal right to maintain custody of his kids.
This is an important case for a large number of reasons. Here is just 3 good ones:
- His freedom is our freedom. People should NOT be discriminated against based on their sexual identity, their sexual preferences. I think we ALL make the assumptions that we will be treated fairly in matters of law but the reality is that is not the case.
- Help build legal precedence. While there IS a growing set of legal cases being won by amazing people like the The Sexual Freedom Legal Defense and Education Fund and the National Coalition For Sexual Freedom, but there really needs to be more. I think TOO MANY people don’t fight for the own legal rights because of the fear of stigma of being “found out” as kinky or “deviant”. The more cases that are won, will encourage other people to feel confident enough to defend themselves. But winning cases like these takes money. It takes people. And it has to be fought out state-by-state and court-by-court and sometimes even judge-by-judge. I have no doubt that the war for sexual freedom will be won eventually, but some battles will be lost. It’s a fight worth fighting. A donation to Jefferson is a donation to help build a solid set of precedence for generations to come.
- Jefferson’s kids. What sucks here is that it is always the kids who suffer the most. They lose access to their father. They get reinforced the idea that sex is bad, and something must be “wrong” if it means their own loving father isn’t allowed be there for them. It hurts everybody. It’s just stupid and fear based and small-minded. There isn’t a SINGLE shred of evidence that Jefferson is a bad parent. His ex-wife has ADMITTED that he is a good father.
I’m NOT saying that there aren’t people who’s sex lives ARE problems for their kids. There are plenty of examples of fucked up parents and their fucked up behavior, fucking up kids. But bi, gay, lesbian, BDSM-ers, poly, and other general kinksters are NO MORE LIKELY or LESS LIKELY to be fucked-up.
But it’s exactly people like Jefferson, that have embraced their own sexuality with confidence and pride and self-respect, is whom I think we want our kids to emulate. Jefferson is one of the good guys.
I will be making a small donation and putting a link to the defense fund on the site.
Make a donation TODAY! Even just $10 is gonna make a difference. It’s tax deductible! Come on. Takes minutes via paypal. (Make sure to state JEFFERSON LEGAL DEFENSE FUND in your donation!).
So I am PUTTING UP Delilah’s sore ass as an incentive.
If somebody sends us an email to sir@collaredcoed.com with a note that you left a donation, than I promise to give Delilah a nice strong spanking and caning. She will of course need to file a full and complete report here when it’s done.
I’ll start the strikes of at $20 a strike? If we get flooded with pledges, I may have to raise the price, so act now while the prices are still low! After the first few hundred dollars raised, I’m gonna raise the price per strike.
The goal is to raise $20,000, but I’m only currently only gonna counting donations from people who send me a pledge.
All your emails and identities will be kept in TOTAL AND STRICT CONFIDENCE. If you have any questions or concerns about that, just email me, or leave a comment.
After the first few hundred dollars donated, I’m gonna raise the price per strike! So send in a donation now, I’m only gonna leave her us up for sale until MONDAY night, midnight, pacific standard time.
We will work out the final details of WHEN and HOW she will receive all those strikes, but the priority is to try and raise some money this week!
(This will teach her to ask me blog!…).
- sir.



August 7th, 2008 at 4:05 am
I smell a scam. It would add, well, injury to injury if your poor, unfortunate ass will fall victim to it as well.
A response to Boymeat’s “Save Jefferson” post is both kinder and less skeptical than I think is appropriate. At the very least, read that BEFORE deciding to donate, spanking or not.
Know this for sure: Custody decisions are based on the best interests of the child in question, not who does or doesn’t pay $20k in “costs associated with [anything].” Oh, and Guardians ad litem don’t get paid by either party, and you don’t lose custody because you can’t pay them by some specified date; those would be a blatent and inherent conflict of interest.
August 7th, 2008 at 10:02 am
We met Boymeat at TesFest this year (he zapped Delilah after his very cool electric play class).
The comment in question (I assume you are referring to) is here:
http://boymeat.livejournal.com/379000.html?thread=4271224#t4271224
It does bring up interesting points. I’m not yet ready cancel the fundraiser, but I’ll I’m more than willing to let readers get all the details and make their own decision.
I’ll still spank her if you decide to give!
Hell, I’m gonna spank her anyways, scam or no scam.
August 7th, 2008 at 12:31 pm
The commenter on my journal had her case handled out of family court. From what I understand, this case is not, and thus the costs and requirements are different. It is not a scam - I am not in the habit of supporting efforts to steal other’s money.
August 10th, 2008 at 11:34 am
Jefferson brought a lot of traffic to my blog when he cited a past post to a major blog network. I was thrilled.
I’m returning the favour by detailing his circumstance on my blog, where I’ve also included a link here. I hope poor, sniffling Delilah doesn’t walk steadily for at least a week.
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