Sadly, I can’t tell you how to fix it….I still haven’t figured it out but that doesn’t meant it will always be this way. I understand your fears. I have them too. You worry that they’ll get so frustrated with you that they’ll just find someone who doesn’t have this issue or you worry that they’ll just stop trying to make you come, come themselves and then just stop since you can’t come. It’s not true.

But he is very correct that you are doing it to yourself. The more you worry the worse it is. It’s a never ending circle. You just have to practice relaxing and enjoying yourself. Try thinking about something that gets you really hot in your head. It is ok to think about other things then what is happening sometimes. Often I find that I’m the only one who knows what’s going to get me off at the time. I don’t want to tell anyone “pretend you broke in and i don’t know you…that will get me off.” You don’t want to top from the bottom, or make them change what they wanted to do….so it’s ok for you to throw that little extra fantasy into what’s happening to help yourself. Ask him…I’m sure he’ll say it’s ok.

Kimi